Moving On
Many years ago, I had the experience of painfully letting go of a part of my life that was no longer serving me. It was an extremely difficult time for me, and some days I didn’t know how I would go on.
Thankfully, I did go on.
Looking back now, I can see myself in my struggle. I wanted to move forward, and at the same time, I also was tempted to hold on to my old attachments. Why did it all have to be so hard!
If you find yourself at a crossroads, where you know it is time to move on and let something or someone go, yet there is a part of you that wants to hold on, please have compassion for yourself and recognize that you are not alone in your struggle.
Even when we know the change we are making is what we truly want, letting go is hard, letting go is lonely, letting go is scary!
Eventually, we will realize that when we know it is in our best interests to move forward in our lives without whatever or whoever it is, listening to the part of us that knows WILL serve us if we make our choice and live our choice one moment at a time.
Let’s look at an example: Say you have been in a long-term relationship, and you know it is time to end it. As you have the conversations and make your plans to move forward separately, there will be the part of you inside that knows you are doing what is best for you. However, occasionally, another part of you may pop up and be frightened.
As time goes on, you might hear about your former partner and how they are moving on as well, and you may feel a twinge of sadness. Why? Because whenever we say goodbye, change, or decide to move in a different direction, there is a part of us that mourns the loss – even if we are simply mourning the loss of what could have been.
It is essential to understand that your mourning doesn’t mean you made a mistake or that you should go back to what you know does not serve you. Instead, when you are mourning, it is wise to reach out for support and remind yourself that you made the best choice for your whole life, and you made the choice because you knew in your heart that you do deserve to move on . . . you certainly do!
Thinking of you as you move on,
Annette